Why Teach?

“I could love everybody in this room if I had an opportunity to know you, with equal intensity, and I still would have the same amount of love and the same potential to love that I have right at this moment. I will have lost nothing. But I first must have it. If my love is neurotic, if it’s possessive, if it’s sick, all that I could teach you is […]

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A Prescription for Love (and Freedom)

When I did yoga teacher training several years ago, we learned about the different phases along what is known the eight-fold path. First we had to understand the underlying foundational principles of yoga, including “yamas” and “niyamas.” These were like the 10 commandments of being a yogi, and the principles lined up with those of major religions, such as acting with nonviolence in all things, and being truthful. Within a […]

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You Are Not Broken

  Break: verb. Separate or cause to separate into pieces as a result of a blow, shock, or strain “There is nothing broken here.” –Titilope Sonuga, poem, “Becoming”   I keep hearing this problematic message that all human beings are broken. And I don’t believe it. Perfect? No. (And yet, we also somehow are.) Weak? Yeah, bummer. (And also very strong.) Vulnerable? For sure. Confused? Mostly. Overwhelmed? So often. Not […]

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What Does It Mean to Be Strong?

I met a psychic once who held my hand and said, “You’re enormously strong. You shouldn’t have been suffering with depression.” I don’t think she ever knew the strength it can take for a depressed person, whose body feels like it’s weighed down by boulders, to stand up and get a shower and make breakfast and drive a car. I am not depressed anymore, and I hope I never am […]

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Saying Yes to Your Life

Do you know how to let go? I certainly didn’t, for a long time. I grasped on to everything tightly, like a kid gripping her bicycle’s handlebars. I thought that would keep me in control. Nothing would fail. Things wouldn’t go wrong, because I wouldn’t let them. Isn’t this cute? It reminds me of a boyfriend I had once who, when I told him that the relationship wasn’t working, declared, […]

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Falling in Love with Yourself

“Being single…. There’s a certain dignity to it.” –Janet Livermore, Singles, 1992 If you’re like me, you grew up daydreaming about meeting your other half. You looked up phone numbers of the boys you liked in the phone book and prank-called them. You went to bed at night dreaming of being held, or kissed, while you listened to the radio play bad songs by Guns-N-Roses. You thought everything would be […]

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God Is Not a Game You Win

“Oh, life. It’s bigger. Is bigger than you, and you are not me.” –R.E.M., “Losing My Religion”  “There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” –Hamlet   I met a man once who said he was an atheist, but that if anything were to happen to one of his kids, he knew he’d immediately pray. He also spent his Thanksgiving volunteering at […]

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