singlehood

Your Vulnerability Is Your Strength

Love is recklessness, not reason. Reason seeks a profit, Love comes on strong, consuming herself, Unabashed. Yet in the midst of suffering, Love proceeds like a millstone, Hard-surfaced and straight-forward. Having died to self-interest, She risks everything and asks for nothing. Love gambles away every gift God bestows. –Rumi “I want to know what love is, I want you to show me. I want to feel what love is, I […]

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How to Love Yourself: An Ongoing Recipe

Step One: Stop browsing your computer or your phone. Put them both away.   Step Two: Slice up an apple. Make water into wine by pouring its cool, clear freshness from a carafe into your favorite glass. Watch the light hit it; hear its luxurious sound. Sit on the floor of your living room, on a golden blanket, in your bare feet, listening to Nina Simone. Bite into your apple’s crispness. […]

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A New Gender Dynamic

For a long time, I thought I was inferior to men. Wait, that’s not true. I didn’t think I was inferior. I believed it. What I thought was that I was angry about that belief, a belief that went so deep I didn’t know how to access it to turn it over and find out where it came from so I could remove it. This belief was something in my body that went […]

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FirstDay Sermon: Unconditional Love

“For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation…. Love is at first not anything that means merging, giving over, and uniting with another (for what would a union be of something unclarified and unfinished, still subordinate—?), it is a high inducement to the individual […]

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Dating God

It wasn’t until last week, paging reluctantly through the Old Testament for a prayer group I’m in, that something clicked into place about that fickle, angry Old Testament God who I could never previously relate to. She’s like a scorned woman/mother/burgeoning-entrepeneur/creative/hot single chic doing a lot of important shit and getting no respect. She’s like, I told you what I like. Aren’t you listening? I was so nice, wasn’t I? […]

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