marriage

Why Doesn’t Love Last?

I think our deepest need is to love and be loved. And yet so many relationships end, and not well, or people disappoint us. We want to be loved, but we don’t know what that’s supposed to look like. Or we want to love someone else, but they don’t receive it or know how we feel. And then a relationship ends in one way or another, and we’re left bereft, […]

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The Exact Right Place to Be

I had a friend once who told me about her mishaps in dating. Her husband died and she’d been raising her daughter for years on her own. Every once in a while, she’d go out on a date, for practice, she said. Sometimes she’d get involved in a relationship. But after the first two relationships ended badly, she decided she was going to swear off men altogether. “I just refuse […]

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Being Free

Yesterday I took my daughters for a walk around our neighborhood after dinner. It’s only recently that I’ve allowed my four-year-old, the baby of the family, to walk instead of ride in her stroller. On this day, after holding my hand to cross the street, she ran up ahead on the sidewalk, spreading her arms wide and skipping as the breeze ruffled her dress and blew her ponytail. She makes similar movements at […]

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What Is Love? Baby Don’t Hurt Me

Last weekend while I was getting a pedicure, my favorite nail salon was showing Baz Luhrman’s remake of The Great Gatsby on their screens. Usually I try avoid watching their movie selections, which tend to involve poorly written love stories with faux-feisty blonde women, but this movie has more depth, and I couldn’t help watching longer than my pedicure took, even though I saw the movie when it first came […]

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The Marriage Chronicles

When I was married, I told my then-husband I wanted to write an anonymous blog called The Marriage Chronicles. It seemed like so many struggles married couples face happen silently, behind closed doors. You wouldn’t know two people who loved each other could feel so disconnected or suffer so much inside their pretty houses. Behind closed doors,  couples fought and questioned or lived separate lives. But on the outside, we […]

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