marriage

Maybe Don’t Put a Ring On It?

Let me start out this post by saying 1) I am a total romantic, and 2) I don’t judge anyone for making the choices he or she feels is best for them, including choices they believe will make them happy for the rest of their lives. And let me also add 3), which is that I am not an angry woman. When women say the things I’m about to say, […]

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The End of Rock Bottom

At the end of 2015, just after Christmas, I packed a small bag and headed to Manhattan for a couple of days. The first song on the musical playlist I had made was Van Morrison’s “Astral Weeks”: If I ventured in the slipstream Between the viaducts of your dream Where immobile steel rims crack And the ditch in the back roads stop Could you find me? Would you kiss-a my […]

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Embrace Your Sorrow

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about. –Rumi, “The Great Wagon” I have this bad habit of asking God to take away all my pain, particularly my sorrows. I’ve always sort of thought if I could walk through life like a robot, making all the “right […]

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Why Doesn’t Love Last?

I think our deepest need is to love and be loved. And yet so many relationships end, and not well, or people disappoint us. We want to be loved, but we don’t know what that’s supposed to look like. Or we want to love someone else, but they don’t receive it or know how we feel. And then a relationship ends in one way or another, and we’re left bereft, […]

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