love

Sex is Only Love

Things don’t always have to be said to be understood. When I was young, I was taught a very bad lesson by a very evil man. The way he looked at me when I was a child made a part of me know that the things he wanted to do were not appropriate, were not safe, were not whole. It was something I would never have been able to speak […]

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The Wisdom of Cameron Crowe

I can’t help myself. I just keep thinking about Cameron Crowe movies, the ones I watched over and over again in high school and college. The guy’s sort of a genius. First, let’s take a look at Lloyd Dobler, from Say Anything. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Lloyd is a yogi, ahead of his time. A Bhakti yogi, the stream of devotion. Only, he doesn’t direct […]

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Tell Your Friends You Love Them

Growing up, my family was never big on the “love” word. When I tell my grandmother I love her, she giggles nervously. “I was always taught love something is you show. You don’t need to say it.” But that’s not true. You do need to say it. You do. There are many different ways of showing love. Plenty of us have read that “love languages” book. (It’s how I thought […]

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Finding the One

I’ll admit it, I’ve been on dating apps. It’s somewhat of a hellish experience, except when it works. Swipe left, swipe right. Good, bad, ugly, weird. Yes, no, yes, no. That’s a really bad way to live in this world. If you can get past the barrage of images and look at people with an open heart, you’re on a better track, but many of these apps just make you […]

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Honesty Is Honor

We must be honest with the people in our lives. Honesty does not mean being mean or cruel. It means speaking your Truth with an intention of Peace, and being open to what happens rather than trying to control it or force your hand. When we admit our own vulnerability, our own feelings, and allow ourselves to be honest, we might worry about how the other person is going to […]

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The Shadow of Love

“I’m not interested in that kind of love,” Mel said. “If that’s love, you can have it.” –Raymond Carver, “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” There is a kind of love that is not love at all. It just wears the mask of love, like demons sometimes wear the mask of light. This Thing, which is really Pain in disguise, is not about giving to another person, […]

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