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Maybe Don’t Put a Ring On It?

Let me start out this post by saying 1) I am a total romantic, and 2) I don’t judge anyone for making the choices he or she feels is best for them, including choices they believe will make them happy for the rest of their lives. And let me also add 3), which is that I am not an angry woman. When women say the things I’m about to say, […]

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The End of Rock Bottom

At the end of 2015, just after Christmas, I packed a small bag and headed to Manhattan for a couple of days. The first song on the musical playlist I had made was Van Morrison’s “Astral Weeks”: If I ventured in the slipstream Between the viaducts of your dream Where immobile steel rims crack And the ditch in the back roads stop Could you find me? Would you kiss-a my […]

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Soul Sisters

So often we realize we have family that has nothing to do with blood relations. I am a person gifted with so many beautiful friends. Friends who have stuck by me, accepted my flaws, grieved with me. Friends who held me up in hard times and laughed with me in the good. It’s surprising, actually, because I remember while I was married with very young children, feeling so terribly alone, […]

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Saving Yourself

A few years ago, I sat outside at a restaurant with a young woman I cared a lot about. We met at a new job I had started, and we clicked instantly, even though there was more than 10 years between us. And I admitted something to her then that I hadn’t said to anyone else. “I just want someone to save me,” I told her. She took a sip […]

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