love

Sex and Love and Men and Women

Human relationships have always fascinated me. And the relationships we, as a culture, seem to be most interested in are the sexual unions. If we’re dating, we want to know what the dating partners are thinking, what we could say or do to get them to commit to us or have sex with us. If we’re married, we want to know how to keep love alive and thriving in the […]

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Success in Relationships

Success is something I’ve thought a lot about, and something we all want. But I think we haven’t really broken down the parts of what it means to be successful in life. Because really, success means happiness, and we’re not always sure what’s going to make us happy unless we do a bit of soul-searching. The Latin root of success is successus, which means “advance, coming up, a good result.” […]

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Is Dating Like Buying a Car?

Last week I had to go car-hunting. My black sedan got hit pretty bad on the way home from work one day, so when I found out it was totaled, I knew I was going to have to make a big new-car decision. It had been a long time since I was able and ready to invest in one, and I was excited by the prospect—I could actually pick what […]

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Maybe Don’t Put a Ring On It?

Let me start out this post by saying 1) I am a total romantic, and 2) I don’t judge anyone for making the choices he or she feels is best for them, including choices they believe will make them happy for the rest of their lives. And let me also add 3), which is that I am not an angry woman. When women say the things I’m about to say, […]

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The End of Rock Bottom

At the end of 2015, just after Christmas, I packed a small bag and headed to Manhattan for a couple of days. The first song on the musical playlist I had made was Van Morrison’s “Astral Weeks”: If I ventured in the slipstream Between the viaducts of your dream Where immobile steel rims crack And the ditch in the back roads stop Could you find me? Would you kiss-a my […]

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