divorce

Developing Self-Trust

“Let ’em look.” –MotherJana How do you know you can trust yourself to make wise decisions? Trust in yourself is trust in God. It’s that simple. And that complicated. Having trust in one of these is the way you learn to have trust in the other, because it’s a partnership, you see. Two things: You have some problematic assumptions I need to clear you of. (I hope I remember the […]

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Getting Clear on Direction

I met a man on my birthday who owned a coffee shop, and we quickly began talking about what mattered in life.  I had just come back from a conference to develop grand plans, and I was thinking about what it meant to be 40, and what the next stage of my life was going to be like. I had all kinds of questions tumbling through my mind about the […]

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Love Is Not about Power or Control

So much about the concept of being “saved” by a divine being must include the recognition that the saving does not happen once. On the spiritual path, which is the path of the warrior, we must recognize we are saved again and again and again. We don’t know things. We walk through a passage of confusion, of toil. And then we emerge, and we know better, and we live in […]

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Treat a Woman Like a SmartPhone

When it comes to men and women, there is a lot of mixup in communication. We all have needs and wants and desires and goals, and yet we’re primal people with physical and sexual urges, too. Add kids and careers and hobbies and friends, and the prospect of a true loving relationship feels completely a mess. How does one make it happen? If we’ve been single a long time and […]

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The Long Road After Divorce

It is a long road back to yourself after divorce. A very long road. My divorce was the most intense betrayal of my life. And underlying all of my anger at my ex-spouse was anger at myself, for doing something so wrong, for investing in something that broke apart my whole life and all my dreams at the core. I have sympathy for myself now, thankfully. I have compassion for […]

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