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Love Is Not about Power or Control

So much about the concept of being “saved” by a divine being must include the recognition that the saving does not happen once. On the spiritual path, which is the path of the warrior, we must recognize we are saved again and again and again. We don’t know things. We walk through a passage of confusion, of toil. And then we emerge, and we know better, and we live in […]

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Treat a Woman Like a SmartPhone

When it comes to men and women, there is a lot of mixup in communication. We all have needs and wants and desires and goals, and yet we’re primal people with physical and sexual urges, too. Add kids and careers and hobbies and friends, and the prospect of a true loving relationship feels completely a mess. How does one make it happen? If we’ve been single a long time and […]

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The Long Road After Divorce

It is a long road back to yourself after divorce. A very long road. My divorce was the most intense betrayal of my life. And underlying all of my anger at my ex-spouse was anger at myself, for doing something so wrong, for investing in something that broke apart my whole life and all my dreams at the core. I have sympathy for myself now, thankfully. I have compassion for […]

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Sex and Love and Men and Women

Human relationships have always fascinated me. And the relationships we, as a culture, seem to be most interested in are the sexual unions. If we’re dating, we want to know what the dating partners are thinking, what we could say or do to get them to commit to us or have sex with us. If we’re married, we want to know how to keep love alive and thriving in the […]

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Success in Relationships

Success is something I’ve thought a lot about, and something we all want. But I think we haven’t really broken down the parts of what it means to be successful in life. Because really, success means happiness, and we’re not always sure what’s going to make us happy unless we do a bit of soul-searching. The Latin root of success is successus, which means “advance, coming up, a good result.” […]

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